In the light of Kavanaugh
There was a reason why she waited so long to come forward. 35 years. I could not even imagine. Sexual abuse is starting to become a common phenomenon to speak out about which for very good reason. What stands out most to me is that she kept it hidden for 35 years until she was brave enough to bravely speak out on this emotional topic.
The victims never forget. It does not matter what "kind" abuse occurred. There is no type. All types of abuse are awful and have long-lasting effects on the victim. Emotional, verbal and sexual abuse are ALL valid. It does not matter the outward effect that could be caused. What matters is the emotional toll it takes. What bothers me most about this is that on social media I see people refer to her as "playing the victim". Because she was the victim of a crime! She deserves to speak her truth and for people to belittle that act is astounding to me.
I was never sexually abused and to that I am grateful as I know how common it is. Something that is important to keep in mind is emotional and verbal abuse which is also as common. It may not considered much shock value by the public if it was publicized such as this sexual accusation was. I believe her. I believe her because I did not report. All abuse in my opinion should be reported especially if it was someone who is around children a lot, not necessarily parental guardians. As this has come out and the conversation is starting with all of the people who are just now speaking their truth in the light of this possible man to be in the supreme court which is a lifetime job. I believe all abuse should be recognized and heard.
As my book is in it's final stages I have new fears. Fears of what will happen if HE reads it. That scares me. Not in the fear of him taking his own medicine rather the fear of him retaliating in some way. I do not have proof that he will not. I do not have proof that something will happen to his career. I do not know if there is more than just my story. All I know and am confident in that it was my truth and that is all that matters. He could be asked about it and deny it which will most likely be the case. My dad told me he will deny the shit out of just like Kavanaugh is. I do not expect him to come forward. I did not come into telling my story believing that would happen but if he could just know what his actions did and still do to his students I have done my job. I have spoken my truth even without him reading it.
I have come to peace with that.
I was never sexually abused and to that I am grateful as I know how common it is. Something that is important to keep in mind is emotional and verbal abuse which is also as common. It may not considered much shock value by the public if it was publicized such as this sexual accusation was. I believe her. I believe her because I did not report. All abuse in my opinion should be reported especially if it was someone who is around children a lot, not necessarily parental guardians. As this has come out and the conversation is starting with all of the people who are just now speaking their truth in the light of this possible man to be in the supreme court which is a lifetime job. I believe all abuse should be recognized and heard.
As my book is in it's final stages I have new fears. Fears of what will happen if HE reads it. That scares me. Not in the fear of him taking his own medicine rather the fear of him retaliating in some way. I do not have proof that he will not. I do not have proof that something will happen to his career. I do not know if there is more than just my story. All I know and am confident in that it was my truth and that is all that matters. He could be asked about it and deny it which will most likely be the case. My dad told me he will deny the shit out of just like Kavanaugh is. I do not expect him to come forward. I did not come into telling my story believing that would happen but if he could just know what his actions did and still do to his students I have done my job. I have spoken my truth even without him reading it.
I have come to peace with that.
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